2016 Was Not So Bad Regardless of What Facebook Says

2016 has been a trying year for all. There have been disappointments, deaths, and disasters. Not to mention the rise of the Donald. Social media posts show heartbreak over celebrity deaths. Someone has created a GoFundMe account to protect Betty White. Many people are eager to see 2016 go in hopes of a better 2017.

If you really think about it, there have also been joys, births, and good times. Isn’t every year a mix of triumphs and disappointments? It is called life. We as humans increment the vastness of time into yearly increments. Perhaps it gives us some sense of control over the uncontrollable. The truth is – bad stuff happens and so does good stuff. Your happiness cannot hinge on the nature of what is happening around you.

I have been cooking lately. Well, learning to cook. Yesterday, I decided to do it big. The meal planned – fried pork chops, mashed potatoes from scratch, and roasted garlic asparagus. I prepared by reading highly rated recipes. I watched how-to videos on Youtube. I was PREPARED. Armed with ingredients, knowledge, and determination – I was ready. I started cooking. Everything seemed to be going great. Food looked good, smelled even better. After much sweat, I was finally finished. I fixed my plate. It looked good enough for Instagram. I cut into the perfectly browned pork chop. It was too salty. I felt the wind escape from my sails. I was not only cooking for myself but for my boyfriend, too. I was near tears. My friend said that is was okay. He stated that the only way to learn is to try. I began to feel less terrible.

That is my 2016 in a nutshell. It started with great aspirations. I even had a plan, a vision board even. I tried my best and still some things failed – relationships, promotion attempts, finishing my second book, weight loss. It was like those Facebook videos you watch of someone taking off in a race and then some invisible leg extends in front of them and they trip and fall. It feels like the fall is so hard because the person running was moving ahead at full-speed expecting to finish first.

I had started writing a great story based on my childhood adventures – over 10,000 words. I had written some wonderful poetry almost 30 pages worth. I went to Texas for a work conference and lost my thumb drive. Talk about tripping over an invisible leg. Man, I was hurt. Thankfully, the 10,000 words had been backed-up on the cloud. The poetry only exists in my head and heart.

I am ready to start again.

If you have been graced with another day of life, you have another chance to get it right. Some failures require some hard work. Others require some downtime for healing. No matter how comfortable, resist the urge to stay here. This place is meant to be temporary. You have to get up and keep running.

2017 is what you make of it. Start again. Be enthusiastic again. If you should fall, get back up and continue.

You Say You Want A Resolution

It is that time again. A new year is upon us. The Mayan apocolypse was a bust. Our planet is still spinning on its axis as God intended. Before it makes another full revolution around the sun, what do I hope to accomplish?

I resolve to live my life in the present. I no longer want to time travel expecting my life to be perfect at some future moment or event. My life is perfect now. I have my health and strength, my mom and family, friends and work. I truly lack nothing.

It is time for me to enjoy it. A friend of mine went to Paris. I have taken french for about 6 years and have dreamed of France. She brought me back some chocolate and an Eiffel Tower key chain. The gift reminded me that is time to make my dreams the reality.

I have completed my book. It is time to edit that bad boy and get it published.

I am leaving all crushes in the past. Remember my Confessions of a Serial Crusher. That teenage stuff is for the birds. My 2013 in based in reality – waking up.

I am realistically controlling the food I put in my mouth and the exercise of my body.

I am being honest about my feelings regardless of the response.

I am making money at every opportunity. No risk, no reward.

I am defining and enforcing all boundaries.

I will wear a red dress at least once a month AND some signature red lipstick.

I am going to chill and just be.

What about you? Please leave a comment or tweet me or Facebook me.

I Gave Up Cable, Now What?

Guys I have cut the proverbial cord – the cable cord. Saving money all over the place, which feels good. Have a whole lot of free time and less mental clutter. The challenge? Harnessing all this new found energy into something productive. 

I ain't gonna lie *no Fifty Tyson* I had some withdrawals. This past Sunday was the debut of the new Real Housewives of Atlanta. YET, I did not bow, I did not bend. I held my ground and surprise, my bank account is pleased. 

I cannot believe how much time I wasted on my reality shows. All of the time I could have spent working on my book. 

Yeah, remember that?

My mind is clearer. I abhor drama in my own personal life yet I had opted to allow other people's drama into my home for entertainment's sake. Surely real life has more to offer. In 2012, I am going to find out. 

SN: I have rediscovered PBS. They need the viewership, right? Ah, Charlie Rose, how I have missed thee!

Freeing myself of cable is the gift that keeps on giving. 

It Is A New Year

I am so glad that it is here!

Happy New Year readers. I really do appreciate you.

I have a set of new beginnings – a new job, a new place, a new hairdo. lol I am going to get my hair straightened and my ends clipped. Not to worry, this is a temporary do. I will be natural come Monday morning.

I am loving my new place. I am like 4 miles away from my work. The place is spacious and less than what I was paying before. With gas saved from the nonexistent commute, my budget is fat! lol

I love it so much I think I just may splurge a little and decorate.

The end of 2011 was about reorganization and planning. 2012 is about carrying that plan out.

I feel so excited when I read that friends are starting business and ventures. The people that I grew up with are living their dreams. So am I!

2012 is for the dream fulfillers. No excuses and no setbacks. I name and claim that one.

Ten Best and Worst Moments of 2010

If you are a loyal reader of this blog then you can probably guess my list. I will give it a go anyway. Got the idea from a blog friend, Sincerely.

Best Moments of 2010

10. My Audition – Conquered a fear and had a blast. Did not get the part but it felt good all the  same.

9. Bionic Lashes – Found out how accenting one small part can have an gigantic effect on confidence.

8. My Adult Crush – I confessed years ago that I was a Serial Crusher. I thought I was in recovery until cute Puerto Rican guy came into my life. It was cute while it lasted.

7. The flower in my hair. Totally related to #8.

6. Susan G. Komen 5k Walk/Run for the Cure. Did it! Awesome! Here's hoping there is a cure soon.

5. My Niece and nephew visiting me for the summer. We had a blast. Looking forward to next summer.

4.  Graduation – It was such a long time coming. My family came to visit and everything. The first time they had been to see me since my 3 years being here. Had a blast.

3. Getting a job after being laid off.

2. Not losing anyone or anything this year!

1. My sister having a bouncing baby boy after being told she could never have children.

It goes without saying that I am happy to be alive, for my family and friends and my readers. I love you guys. I am happy to know God who gives me the confidence to face any year with assurance and peace.

Worst Moments of 2010

After writing my 10 best moments, I am feeling to grateful to write a 10 worst moments. So tell me your best or worst moments of 2010.

Bionic Dresses and Other Reasons To Work Out

Some people have a certain weight they would like to attain or a certain outfit they would like to fit. I have a state of being I would like to reach.

I want to be bionic.

Wonder woman

Not in a robotic, uncanny valley sort of way but femininely superhuman.

I used to feel bionic. I would put on a dress back when I was a size 10-11 and short circuits. lol


This dress is BIONIC! 

That is my goal when working out and eating from this day forward.

Once I am stopping traffic again with one strut down a side walk, leaping over haters in a single bound, and catching fish without hooks, I will have reached my goal.

Until then. . .

Graduation – OMG

Written March 21st, 2010. 

I started this journey almost 4 years ago. I was working at Payless, thinking is this what college got me? I decided to make a change. I changed my whole life to go back to school. At first I took some undergrad classes in business. I then studied up for the GMAT.

When  I started school, everything was easy breezy. I then got a very high demand job that was stressing me out. I even took a semester off. During the interim, I moved to Texas.

I say all that to say that slow and steady really does win the race. You just have to work at your goal day by day, even when the odds are not in your favor.

I am writing this after spending like 24 hours finishing my graduation project. Today I bought my cap and gown. This is really happening for me.

I don’t know what tomorrow holds but I know Who holds tomorrow. I really do believe God rewards the bold. Those who dare to step out on faith.

So here I go – one step at a time.

Here’s to Keeping Keeping Promises. . .

. . .to myself.

I made a couple of resolutions this year. Those were my main, public goals. To myself, I promised to get out more. More specifically, to go to a social event 2 times a month.

I went to a Jazz cafe for my birthday and a networking dinner for a professional group I belong to. At this dinner, I met a nice young man who had just completed his MBA. I felt confident and cute. I was flirtatious and witty, even if I must say so myself! lol

I don't know where this confidence came from but I am loving it. At the end of the dinner, the guy shook my hand and gave me his card. I gave him mine. He has not called yet but that is beside the point. The point is I got out and was sociable and . . .fearless.

Secondly, I promised the Lord, if he blessed me with a job (and He did) I would volunteer. I wanted to use the talents God has given me to give back.

Well, I have an audition coming up for a group that records reading material for the blind. I really would like to do this. Just to show how God is always working things out, I'll tell this little story.

I get to the reading center, the volunteer coordinator is giving me a tour of the facilities. I see the name of a friend's husband's friend's wife. You follow?

I helped this loose contact a couple of months ago with a clothing swap fundraiser for her playhouse. I had NO idea she was the book coordinator for the reading for the blind facility. She has worked with them for 23 years!!!

Hopefully, this is where God wants me to be.

Also, my goal is to be faithful at the house of God. I think I know what church to go to now.

Where are you on resolutions?

Stay prayerful guys.

Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

May all of your BEST DREAMS COME TRUE.

That is my wish for 2010. There are no deaths, just marriages and births!!!!!!!!!!!! There is no job loss, just increase and houses built!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There are no excuses, just go-getters making it happen.

Never one for resolutions but I am happy for new beginnings. I am also grateful for the past.

Soooo in 2010, I look forward to:

  1. Completing my novel
  2. GRADUATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  3. Debt elimination
  4. All of you being around for the ride!

What are your expectations for 2010?