Has Marriage Become A Dirty Word?

Sooooooo, I am over at Brown Sista and there is a post entitled, "Why Are Women So Pressed to be Married?"

Talk about loaded words, ma. You have got marriage and pressed and why all in one sentence?? lol

I will summarize it for you, if you do not have time to read it. The author is at a social function when women start discussing men and their desire for marriage. The author seems rather annoyed at these women and points out how she is so not one of them -how she is so independent, fulfilled and happy. These women were by default – not.

What the what?

One upon a time, marriage was the rule not the exception. Is it now the figurative pariah? Does wanting to be married and have a lifetime partner someone make you weak, lonely, or that dreaded word – desperate? *insert audible gasp* Are you one of those backward, mentally oppressed women who has not realized her freedom to be single?

I am having a conversation with a guy about the same topic. He is also expressing reservations about marriage. He asks, is that why you are always discussing relationships? Do you want to be married or something?

YESSSSSSS!!!!!!  DUHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!

What is so wrong with that? I have set many hard to reach goals in life – education, moving to a new city, my book, and my weight loss. I have many restarts and setbacks. I have decided to make marriage an actual goal. I am not ashamed to admit that.I am very independent, happy, fulfilled and all that good stuff. I will admit this; each and every single time I take out the garbage, I am like – This sucks! I need a husband!

REAL TALK!

You can draw any conclusion you like. It is your brain not mine. My mind tells me that I must conceive a thing first before it is birthed into reality.

I am.

I do.

I wrote a really thoughtful response on the post. I do behave myself on other people's blogs, BUT, what I really wanted to say was girl, boo. You ain't fooling nobody. You know you want to be married, too. Maybe not now but eventually. lol

Who wants to be 60 talking 'bout, me an my boyfriend about to go the movies? Chile, the devil is a liar!

7 thoughts on “Has Marriage Become A Dirty Word?

  1. most women want to get married they have just realized that man have realize there’s nothing in it for the man so most men don’t want to get married and most women don’t expect to be asked.

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  2. Marriage is a great expectation for anyone that wants to be in a serious relationship or wanting children. It blesses the home and provides more of what you can do alone…The problem is that many will not allow God to work on their behalf and they select partners based on convenience, preferences, and status. It is also important to believe someone that tells you that they want to remain single/unmarried, so you don’t waste time on temporary situations or people if your heart desires more….

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  3. You can be as independent/ happy as a single person…but I know when you retire to your room at the end of the day you feel lonely! God created Adam to have it all without a lack or a need, but yet God saw him lonely and gave him a companion. God wills it for us to be married!! It is not good for man to be alone!!! Wanting to get married does not constitute desperation!!! In my opinion, not wanting to get married stems from a past relationship experience, a condition, and or just mere greediness. Take time to heal if that’s the case, move on, and know that at the right time ( Gods own time) you will meet the right person who will change your perspective!!! SHALOM!!

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  4. Welcome Mrs. JD.
    God has to be the head of a marriage! This starts with God being the head of the relationship from the onset.
    “It is also important to believe someone that tells you that they want to remain single/unmarried, so you don’t waste time on temporary situations or people if your heart desires more….”
    AMEN to this ^^^^^^^

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  5. Welcome to the site, Cocoa!
    It bothers me that some equate wanting to be married with desperation.
    “In my opinion, not wanting to get married stems from a past relationship experience, a condition, and or just mere greediness.”
    I love this ^^^^^^

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