I ran across a blog post in which the author poses the question, are black women's standards too high in finding a suitable husband?
A couple things.
The author had a list of qualities she wanted in a mate, well specifically a Black man. One of them was her preference for a "medium to dark complexioned man, a height requirement, loves God and family etc. Things the author was not too hung up on; education, house, cars, etc.
First, I don't judge her for her standards. You want what you want. I do take issue with listing physical requirements but socioeconomic standards are off the table. (I believed the author called them superficial.
Can we get real here?
1. Physical attributes do matter, but are overcome-able by more substantive qualifications.
Attractiveness goes beyond a height or weight. To me the most attractive thing about a man, bar none, is his intellect. A dumb. beautiful man is the BIGGEST turnoff. That and nice teeth. So If I am superficial about anything it's teeth, have all of them and brush them, regularly! lol If you don't have nice teeth, have a savings plan to correct the problem. Please!!!
To guys the physical comes first, ALWAYS.
#2 Money Matters – Have you ever heard the old refrain, I can do bad all by myself? Well as in the song, so in life. I remember watching an old film starring Warren Beatty. In it he wanted to marry this girl but he had no visible means of support, so the girl's father says no. Well, Beatty's character goes off to make a name for himself and then returns to wed his lady love. This is wrong how?
Some women want to marry to have companionship but even more so to have a stable family. Money provides that financial stability. The old rumble about can you love a garbage man is bogus. The answer is yes, from afar. lol
I think the fatal flaw with the bloggers' argument is her insistence on a black man. I could be wrong, although I don't think I am, to say that love is blind. I know many women who settle on a sub par guy just because he is a "black man". Kudos to them but certain things are deal breakers.
Still at home with momma? Uh mm, no.
Can't conjugate a verb? Uh mm no.
Got a baby's momma or two or three? Uh mm, no. (now if the lady has kids then she can decide if she wants a man with kids too. I don't fit into this category so, uh mm, NO!)
Strong, intelligent guy with a sense of humor? Uh mm, yeah.
Have all your teeth and NONE of them are gold and/or diamond encrusted? Uh mm, yeah.
You happen to be a weekend anchor for CNN who goes by the initialed moniker TJ Holmes? Ya darn Skippy! lol
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