Interesting topic suggestion brought up by my very own brother. We shall revisit the hair debate again.
The braiding, straightening and adorning of hair is all to make one feel good about oneself and/or to attract another person. I mean can we keep it real. So, what decision is best when the two goals become mutually exclusive.
Me: When you straighten your hair, the heat can break the bonds just like a chemical. Then your hair won't revert back to curls.
Girl: I know, I know. Let me get married first.
I have heard this more than once. The idea that a man (read: black man) does not like his woman's hair to be, dare I say it, NAPPY!
Me: I don't understand the Rapunzel weaves. So much hair.
Guy: I don't understand why everyone wants to be natural all of a sudden.
A very benevolent friend offered to clip my ends for me. She is natural like me and hair is always so fly. She straightens, trims and styles my hair beautifully.
I notice that my hair has grown quite a bit. Although natural, my hair was drying out and breaking off something terrible. I realized that my beloved Kinky Kurly products had alcohol on them. Yes, drying, make-your-hair-brittle-and-break alcohol. So maybe two months ago, I started usung Shea Moisture.
Me being the Facebook self-hpto taker that I am, I take some pics and post them.I am talking to a good friend and the topic turn my hair.
Friend: Your hair is your glory. Dom't ever cut your hair or you're gonna have one less friend.
Me: Really? Thanks but I would like to think that I am more than my hair.
Friend: Yes you are. . .plus if you do, it'll grow back.
What is it with men and hair? I guess I should poll the guys I know.Since, gowing natural about 4 years ago, I have heard some strange comments about my hair.
Mom: You look like you put your finger in a socket.
Sister: You need a perm or a hot comb.
Brother: Wearing your hair natural makes you look old.
With support like that, what is a girl supposed to do?
I will occasionally wear my hair straightened but I refuse to become a slave to my hair. I did have a momentary lapse. I wanted my hair to last at least through Sunday so I tried to avoide humidity and perspiration. Not an easy feat in 90 degree weather. I thought this is nuts. I want to swim, workout, walk in the rain whenever I feel like it. With my new fitness kick, I cannot be worried about my hair 'going back'. I did my 3 miles on the trail today and bid my Farra Fawcet hair good bye. A good wash and my curls were back.
Today, I walk into the breakroom and this guy says, "Hey, I thought you got your hair done?"
Me: "I did but it was not meant to last."
Guy: "Oh, I thought you got a perm or something. I thought you were all like the natural sista."
So I really needed my ends clipped BAD and I usually do it myself but I thought, girl treat yourself. So I had someone straighten and clip my ends. Beautiful cut, style – very BAD ENDS results.
The Straightened do.
The heat damage. Hair is straight near the roots and will not revert back to curls.
When flat irons are too hot they break the bonds in your hair that create the curling pattern, similar to a relaxer. Stylists unfamiliar with the natural mindset think that you want your hair to "last" and be "bone" straight. I wanted neither, I just wanted my ends clipped.
So now I need to repair my hair. I have been reading good things about almond oil and apple cider vinegar. So My experiment will be – apple cider and water rinse (instead of shampoo wash), almond/glycerin spray, and almond oil massage/ silk bonnet at night.
Since the straightening episode, which was a couple months ago, I have noticed hair shed. One week of this routine and I will update you on the results.
1. Apple Cider Vinegar Rinse
1 cup apple cider vinegar
4-5 cups of bottled water
Rinse hair in the shower with water, detangle with wide tooth comb, add apple cider vinegar rinse, leave on a few minutes, then rinse with cool water. This seals the cuticle shaft and will help eliminate frizz. You will notice the results instantly as your hair will feel silkier.
2. Vegetable Glycerin and Water Spritz
1:4 or 1:5 ratio of vegetable glycerin to water
Place ingredients in a spray bottle and shake until glycerin is dissolved completely.
Spray after apple cider rinse, massage into hair, add almond oil to seal in moisture.
This is my first time using almond oil so I am opting to add it separately to my hair instead of adding it to the spritz.
Being natural is rewarding and frustrating simultaneously.
My curls were not as buoyant as they had previously been so I decided to get my ends trimmed. I went to a hair stylist who shall remain nameless to have her straighten and clip my ends.I opted for heat straightening to get the most precise cut possible.
I must preface this by saying I do not go to hair salons because the typical mentality of a traditional hair stylist is the antithesis of my natural hair mentality. In my experience, traditional stylists think kinks, naps and curls are the devil and will do anything to get your stresses bone straight.
Needless to say, as always, the stylist over processed my hair. By over processed I mean used too much heat. A couple of times. I felt my hair adhering to the flat irons. Now I have a couple of straight spots that will not re-curl. This is a sign of heat damage.
The stylist was not bad. The cut and style were beautiful. It is just that the method was flawed and left me with slightly damaged hair.
I, now, need a non-heated technique to clip my ends. Will update when I find one that works.
Your hair does not have to cascade down in abundant shiny spirals or coils. It does not have to be in a perfectly coifed 'fro or fade.
If you go into a natural hair journey looking to achieve some "look" and not just to embrace a healthy hair regimen, you will fail. You will cry your tears of defeat and go running back to the creamy crack A.K.A "The Relaxer".
This woman made me laugh but also saddened me. She clearly has not learned to love her hair just as it is. This constant search for the right product to give you some elusive curl pattern is illusive.
I am SO disappointed. I SO wanted to like this product line.
You may know the story. A woman made some concoctions in her kitchen for hair, started selling it, made it big. Now she has big-time sponsors, Jada, Mary J, Oprah – so I HAD to try it.
I ordered the Hair Milk, Hair Butter, and Herbal Mint Shampoo from Carol's Daughter.
OMG. The stuff reeks. I mean it smells like the girl in class whose hair wouldn't grow so her mother put that awful Sulfur 8 hair grease in her head. Then gym came and the poor girl started to sweat and, well, you know the rest.
It left my hair soooo oily and grimy looking. I cannot believe it. I wanted to try this over Miss Jessie's product line because Carol's Daughter has natural ingredients and Miss Jessie's uses petroleum. However, Miss Jessie's actually works and Carol's Daughter was a big disappointment. Plus she charges prices equivalent to Aveda brand and uses cheaper ingredients like corn oil. Who wants to use corn oil on their hair?
Maybe she makes products for people with relaxers because they don't work well with my natural hair.
Has anyone used CD and had a different outcome? Please share.